Immigrant's Guide to Preventing Suicide
800,000 people lose their lives to suicide every year according to world health organization!
That’s one person every 40 seconds! That means by the end of my 36th episode, at least 20 people lost their lives to suicide, one of which lives in America. And what is sad is that for every suicide death, there are 25 suicide attempts. So it’s close, closer than you think and its preventable. For me suicide is personal and I’m here to tell you all about it. The incident, the pain and what it taught me.
In one of my episodes, I talked about loosing someone to suicide, and the 7 things that her absence taught me. 1) suicide is closer than you think and the numbers are on the rise 2) watch out for special occasions 3)There are many reasons why someone commits suicide some are hereditary 4)anyone can commit suicide, early immigrants more 5) There are many verbal and non verbal cues to speculate. So keep close eye on your loved one 6)when you notice something, Do something about it. Seek professional help for guidance. 7)Talk about suicide to heal and to reduce the numbers.
A few important things...
Who commits suicide? anyone can!
Sometimes when we think about suicide we think of a drug addict, a weak-willed, or recently a celebrity. But if you talk with those who lost someone to suicide, most will tell you how shocked they were by the news! As you know already, my friend was a strong woman, she had a great career, with a positive outlook on life. So never assume! Never take one's comments lightly! Always Always keep a close eye on people close to you and if you see any of the signs, Act!
What are the signs?
Shockingly, 81% of people who commit suicide tell someone about what they are going to do, and when they will do it . Sadly enough more often than not, they were either ignored, weren’t taken seriously, or the individual didn’t know how to deal with the information.
So first listen carefully. Be alarmed when someone talks about having no interest to live, feeling like they are a burden to others or there is no hope for a better future. It is always best to seek professional help if someone disclosed such information to you. Because you have the ability to save their life!
Now, If they are not talking, look for major changes in their behavior. For example, if they are withdrawing from family and friends’ activities, especially if they were an active participant before. see if they are consuming more alcohol or drugs. Giving away valuable possessions. Sleeping too little or too much. Being aggressive or too fatigued. Reading books related to death. Posting on social media about death. Searching on their computer about the afterlife, writing wills, or dealing with depression. Never ever take these signs lightly and always seek professional help.
What should you do?
a. Seek professional help. It can start from their own physician. Sometimes things as small as vitamin D deficiency can have a severe impact on one's mood and sense of wellbeing. So ask about their recent check-up and support them in seeking professional help. Go with them if they need to. And if they don’t, you seek professional help to find ways to help them.
b. In the meanwhile, be a good listener, validate their emotions and Empathize with them. Don’t argue, blame and point the finger. Provide a trusting, compassionate environment to encourage sharing. Remember, you can not fix the problem. You are just guiding them to seek professional help. Think of all the gene misfunctions that could cause the issue. So seek professional help.
c. Know about the resources available to you. The 24/7 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, the Crisis text line. Educate yourself beyond this episode.
Additional Reading and Resources:
www.psychiatry.org/patients-famili…cide-prevention www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood…es-depression www.reuters.com/article/us-immigr…TRE7335VJ20110404 www.today.com/specials/suicide-attempt-survivors/ www.federalregister.gov/documents/202…t-act-of-2018 Suicide hotline: 800-273-8255 Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis Books: It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine Books: I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Brook Noel Books: Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig Shattering the silence: Youth suicide preventionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sRo5Db_7yVI Lessons from the mental Hospital www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHHPNMIK-fY Brene brown on Vulnerability www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4Qm9cGRub0 What I learned from my husband’s suicide: www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jb_1IklnhaU The bridge between suicide and life www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CIq4mtiamY&t=672s
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